#4 ❦ why shouldn't men look at women and women look at men and women look at women and men look at men why shouldn't they size eachother up (as we used to say) why isn't there more of that looking that casual catching of breath in plain appreciation or rejection why isn't there more of it what old people sometimes ex- perienced as shock and a dangerous heartbeat which sometimes erupted into love at first sight (as it is called to this day) and as old people we must warn it may once in a startling while last forever (as it is called) Grace Paley Fidelity 2008